Sandra Bernhard: Madonna’s relationships don’t last

Sandra Bernhard is still hung up on Madonna.

The actress pointed a finger at the pop icon in a new interview while discussing the former besties’ mysterious falling out in 1992.

“For a while, we had a real friendship, but it’s hard for somebody like her,” Bernhard, 66, said on the “Hot Takes & Deep Dives” podcast on Monday. “She doesn’t really want somebody around who reflects too much of who she is.”

She added, “Therefore, her relationships just don’t last.”

The “Roseanne” alum claimed she had made it crystal clear to Madonna, 63, in the beginning of their friendship that she would always be genuine, but even that didn’t work in the end.

“What I tried to impart in our friendship is, ‘I’m really your friend, I’m not just somebody that’s passing through,’” she recalled.

Sandra Bernhard and Madonna performing together in 1989.
Neither Bernhard nor Madonna, seen here together in 1989, have revealed why they had a falling out.
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While Bernhard did not spill the tea on what exactly went down between her and the Material Girl, she explained that the intensity of being in the limelight in the ’80s and ’90s may have had something to do with their demise.

“I didn’t really like that level of visibility and having to work it constantly,” she said. “We all as performers work it to a certain degree, but I’m a very improvisational person, onstage and in my life, and I don’t like being tied down in having to be a certain way for my image.”

Over the years, the comedian has stayed tight-lipped about the details of her and Madonna’s drama, but she said as recently as June 2019 that they had moved past it.

Sandra Bernhard and Madonna on "Late Night with David Letterman" in 1988.
The former friends made an infamous appearance together on “Late Night with David Letterman” in 1988.
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“I’ve seen her over the years,” Bernhard told Us Weekly at the time. “We’re cool with each other, you know. But people move on and you have your life. I have a daughter [Cicely], my girlfriend [Sara Switzer]. I have my career, my life. And, you know, things do change.”

The onetime BFFs famously made a joint appearance on “Late Night with David Letterman” in 1988 and continued to hang out for years — even sparking romance rumors at one point — before going their separate ways.

“I would have liked that to have gone on for a while [longer],” Bernhard told Wendy Williams in 2010. “Certain people can’t handle those kinds of friendships. That’s not my style. I like to maintain my friendships throughout my life. … It’s OK, you know. All is forgiven.”